In the book U2 by U2, Bono discussed his vision for the song: "It's this thing about the difference between knowledge and wisdom. Beware of knowingness. You sense with teenage girls this incredible pressure to be beautiful and to do well in their school. It is as if every waking moment the whole world is telling them what they're not. I wanted to write a song about uniqueness. It's worth remembering that you probably have something the world really needs. Trying to discover what that might be is one of the challenges of life. But one way you will not discover it is by trying to be what you're not."
As I look back over the past few weeks with one of the most important people in my life besides my grandmother, I again see how trauma and demonic cycles continue to run things on this planet, and without the ability for ourselves individually and as a team to have self-awareness and to turn ourselves into the Lord and without pride, those things can become weaponized into the enemy’s hands to destroy the things that are most precious to us.
I think it always starts by remembering when people are brought into our lives it is to remember that they are treasures lent to us by God, and to not take that for granted. I have always had the belief that we are to listen to the wisdom that others have, because, we have weaknesses within us, and often times, those individuals who are placed in our lives, have those strengths that we need sanctification on. There is simply no need to fight, argue, or to battle those individuals when they bring a concern to us. We only grow stronger when the Lord is working through those individuals to help us heal those individual parts within ourselves.
It takes great practice to get to that level of awareness and ease, especially if we have experienced trauma or people who have never demonstrated love or have been emotionally safe. When we get triggered and we start to become emotionally unsafe, it gives us an opportunity to own it and refine ourselves. We look at that through our actions, our willingness to be sincere, and to not flip the script or to be prideful, because we know, we have trespassed against those we love, and we are not called to do that to one another. We sincerely evaluate where we are needing help and deficient in being a liability instead of rock to those we love.
I fear in these times that more and more peoples hearts are becoming cold and going rogue instead of learning the necessary skills to become more loving and humble. I am not perfect. I am not finger pointing. I have seen parts of myself come up that I am not proud of because I lacked necessary skills to hold a space for someones pain, yet, I am being shown through revelation of where I need to grow up and mature as a christian man and heal and assert my own boundaries and that is all we can do on our path to walking with Jesus. We are called to pick up our cross, no matter how hard or painful it is to look at ourselves and not make excuses.
I think to me this week, this song has very special meaning and sometimes, removing yourself gives yourself permission to put boundaries down and see another person’s perspective even more, appreciate them even more, and bring about true repentance, and hopefully, helps another see value in you as well. You can give an Oscar performing apology all day long, but true repentance comes with not repeating the same behaviors all day long or deflecting a concern. It’s owning it and chipping away it, not in shame, but it self-awareness and knowing you change for God, yourself, and knowing that things will improve for those you love and it shows love and respect. Things don’t have to be complicated, but the church lacks on teaching skills like this, as well as factoring in soul wounds [trauma] and the demonic cycles we go through.
I will leave this to Larette, as you continue to transform and change me.
“You steal right under my door
I kneel 'cause I want you some more
I want the lot of what you got
And I want nothing that you're not”
The best we can do is to continue to turn ourselves into God for refinement, not out of fear, but because we know it will only lead to freedom and unity for ourselves and with the those we love. We become healthy, holy people. However, if we cannot have the humility to look at our own blind spots and unhealed spots and the dysfunction we bring as individuals to those we love or the party doing the same without admission, then the dance of an unbiblical, Unholy relationship will continue. This is what this song means to me this week to one of the most important people to me.
Enjoy the song!
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